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Are You Motivated to be Happy?

I spent a few years in Colorado before pot was legal. I’m sure the usage has increased since it became legal… But I knew a lot of people who smoked.

From my core group of friends, there wasn’t much pressure to smoke. But I always found it somewhat amusing how much acquaintances would put the peer pressure on you to try it. Especially when they found out I never had.

To this day, I still haven’t… But not because I have any moral stance on it. I always just kinda thought that life’s too short to dull the senses. And at that point, to each their own. If you’re not hurting someone else, I couldn’t care less if you smoke weed.

This got me thinking about other motivations I have for doing things though. Where does the desire come from?

I’d love to sit here and say I’m always intrinsically motivated and I seek no validation from outside… But I’m human.

But it’s another thing I think should show up on your habits radar. One thing that’s helped me over time shift my motivation was studying the Stoics.

Sure I don’t buy into everything they were talking about, but Stoicism is some useful philosophy.

From a motivation perspective, Stoicism talks about focusing on what you can control.

So when you’re constantly worried about what other people think… or how they look… and you keep measuring yourself against others… you’re playing a losing game. You have no control over what they do.

The whole “Keeping up with the Joneses” was very un-Stoic from that perspective. People weren’t ending up happier as a result of this unspoken competition to keep up with their neighbors.

Now it’s Tik-Tok or Facebook or Instagram. I plan to watch the Social Dilemma today that came out recently on Netflix. I strongly suspect it’s going to touch on many of these points.

Back to motivation though. Being externally motivated is like playing a shell game. You watch and watch and eventually you pick, hoping that you’re right. Maybe the magician called life lets you win a few times before they eventually walk away with all your happiness.

Again, I know it’s Sunday but I’m not preaching. This post was as much to myself as anyone. I’m going to try to be more conscious of my motivations in different situations.

One parting tip that I came across in the book Influence by Robert Cialdini…

Name it when you see it.

In his chapter on consistency, one of his strategies to combat the subconscious pull of consistency that often get’s used in marketing is to call it out when it happens.

Sounds like a good thing to write in your journal too.

Alright. Until tomorrow.

By Tim Brady | Filed Under: Mindset

The Easiest Way to Avoid Regretting Your Goals

I come to you today as an expert on how to mess this up even after successfully attaining my goals.

This post isn’t going to be about how to set SMART goals. Though I think you should.

It’s not going to be about taking action immediately upon setting a goal. Though I think you should.

It’s not even going to be about speaking about your goals as if you’ve already attained them. But you should probably do that too.

Today is going to be questioning your goals like a child and not stopping until you can’t answer anymore.

I’ve been a goal setter for a long time. I used different techniques to go from answering phones in a front office to being a director at a tech company. I attribute much of that journey to the goals I set.

As I reflect back on the path, I realize it was much longer than it could have been because I didn’t answer the most childlike question during the process.

Why?

For many income or money ends up making it on our list of goals. I’m no exception here.

When I turned 15, my parents expected me to pay for all my ‘wants’ myself (at least that’s how I remember it).

At 15 I could easily get a job at McDonalds or some other chain (and I did).

So if I could work, why would they pay?

To be fair – at the time I hated this philosophy. But I actually thank them today for standing their ground on it because in many ways it taught valuable lessons about valuing money and time.

They covered the needs. But drew a very distinct line about what was a need and what was a want.

You want a car to drive to school your senior year? They helped me get one, but not pay for it. And cars need insurance. That’s on me.

You want a phone? Good luck with that. This was the late 90’s.

New clothes? Up to this point I had hand-me-downs and Good Will apparel.

This led me to set income goals early on. I wanted to buy new clothes for school during my senior year. So I worked and saved to do it. Mission accomplished.

The Key Question

What I failed to ask early on was “why?”.

When I got my first real job after high-school I was working as an industrial maintenance mechanic. I was the low guy on the totem pole. But with my drive I was able to move up quickly.

Within a couple of years I was making only about a dollar less than people that had been working there over twenty years. That hit me like a ton of bricks.

I had set a short term goal about money thinking it was long term. I failed to stop and ask myself “why do I want this job?”.

Your what goal will fall flat or let you down if you don’t ask the follow-up why.

I didn’t have an answer to that when I was younger. But I’m getting better about it now.

The Why Can Change Your Goal

I had decided to go back to college so I’d have the paper to open the doors for better careers. (If I was talking to my younger self, I may have even given different advice there.)

But I went back because I didn’t want such low limits on my income. At the time, I thought “using my mind for work is the ticket”.

So I signed up for business school. Now when you want to learn and love to learn, undergraduate business school is somewhat lack luster in terms of a challenge.

I went back to use my brain to excel. That was my why. So when classes ceased to challenge, I decided to push myself to find something harder.

I thought graduate school was my future at the time and I wanted to be an economist. So I changed from a business major to an applied mathematics major as I discovered graduate economics was super math heavy. I kept my minor in economics so I could still take all the econ classes. But I was able to skip some of the less intense business requirements.

Layer on the Why

As I hinted at in the last section, if I was talking to my younger self… my advice may be different than the path I took. Even with the same why.

I wanted to do work that used my mind instead of the physical labor of my youth. But I also wanted to have a much higher limit on my income. Or ideally, no limit.

Now at this time I hadn’t learned anything or done anything with marketing, much less digital marketing. The marketing in school tended to be focused on brand style building instead of results based marketing. But that’s a post for another day.

A child asks why constantly. We stop asking why far too soon.

Looking at my past goals, I did not ask why enough times.

Why do I want to use my mind? Because those jobs tend to pay more… or because people aren’t meant to work night shifts… or because physical labor is a young game. Any of those answers are just first level.

But let’s take the pay. That was my motivator. Why did I want a job that had a higher income cap? Because I felt like I could make more by putting in a different kind of work.

Why? Because from a young age, I understood those at the top of the organization made more money than those at the bottom. What I missed at that time is that there’s a better perspective.

Those who bring the most value to a company get paid the most. I’ve used this re-frame to dramatically increase my own income.

Check In Often

I’m really long winded today. But since I’m at time, the last takeaway is that you need to check back in on your why.

Sometimes the why itself will change and you need to be able to pivot your goals accordingly.

Maybe you have a kid and your income goals suddenly become less about no limit and more about how much can I make in this limited time… so I can spend more of it with my kid.

The point is, you need to check in on your why often.

Otherwise you could end up at the completely wrong destination.

By Tim Brady | Filed Under: Mindset

Goal Setting Leads to Disappointment

Yesterday was one of the best days of my life. It all started with a bold statement about goals from my wife.

“I don’t like setting long term goals. They just lead to disappointment.”

When I heard those words come out of my wife’s mouth, my heart just sank.

So much of my own success can be attributed to goals that I’ve set throughout my life.

Back in 2010, I was working a job making $12 an hour and decided I wanted more out of work. I wanted fulfillment and money. Fulfillment was a bit hard to measure and I was still kind of young. So I set a goal to make a six-figure income and figured I’d sort out the fulfillment side of things when I got there. I won’t dive into the whole story, but fast forward to 2017 and there I was with a six-figure job offer in hand.

Or another instance this past year where I sat down after reaching the six-figure goal and decided I wanted to push myself yet again in the coming year. Let’s take a crack at hitting $10k a month in personal income.

There was no shortage of plans about how I could bridge the gap to make an extra $20k a year. I booted up the blog, signed up for some digital marketing courses, buckled down at the day job. I was ready to try whatever it took to reach the goal. Ultimately, the one that got there first was the day job, but again.. The details don’t really matter here.

Also – I set a lot of non-financial goals in my life as well, but it’s a bit easier for me to measure the financial ones. I’m working on creating more tangible goals in other areas of my life. But that’s not really the point of this post.

Goals have power when acted on and believed in.

I believe it because I’ve seen it, so when I heard my wife uttered those words, I wasn’t sure what to say.

Rather than profess the power of goal setting to her, I decided to just try to understand more about where she was coming from.

I’ve seen goals work in her life. For starters, she wanted to get the kids into a better school system and into a nicer house. We now live in the best school system in our area in a house that’s four times the size of the one we were in a few years ago.

So why all the hate on goals?

If you’re anything like her, you’ve set goals before. The big lofty kind that get you kind of excited for a minute but over time the path never seems to come into view. So you walk away and say “That didn’t work.” I’m sure everyone’s done that. I know I have.

As we chatted, I started to realize the problem she had wasn’t with goals or action. What she really needed is something that I often take for granted when I set my own goals.

What I found to be the missing component is connection to action.

Tony Robbins talks about never leaving the sight of a goal without taking some sort of action towards it’s attainment.

Sounds great, but how do I know what action to take?

Sometimes the goal is too big to see that path it’s going to take to get there. (If you can see the whole path from the get-go, you probably need bigger goals.)

So if you can’t see the whole path, then what? Look for the next step or two on the path, and take it.

This is where I think a lot of people get hung up. If they can’t see the whole path, then why start?

Action Builds Momentum

You start because action builds momentum.

When you take a step in the right direction, a new step in the path appears.

Eventually, after you’ve taken enough steps, you’ll see the entire path pretty clearly.

It’s kind of neat to look back after you’ve been taking steps for a while because in each of those situations where I’ve hit really big goals. I could never in a million years guessed that was how it was going to happen.

I’m not exactly sure where the tipping point was yesterday, but what started with a negative outlook on goal-setting turned into a spontaneous day of cooperative dreaming.

Yesterday was one of my favorite days in my life.

If you want to know more of the specifics about how we went through and spontaneously set some pretty ambitious goals for 2018, feel free to reach out and connect. You can reach me directly at [email protected] or you can go lurker style and join my newsletter by filling out the form below. In the newsletter, I share my experiences and journey into the world of corporate leadership and my continuing passion for personal development that goes along with trying to create businesses on the side.

By Tim Brady | Filed Under: General, Mindset

5 Big Whys

I’m not really sure how I’m trying to use this blog at the moment, so pretty much it’s just going to be my open journal as I work on starting a business.

My passions lately revolve around Clickfunnels (really sales funnels in general) and Facebook ads. I’ve joined a lot of groups and I consume a lot of information on that front. I’m trying to tie those passions with my desire to contribute in a positive way to both my family and my community, so I’d like to work with local businesses building sales funnels and helping them develop more leads for their business.

I’ve known that this is where I want to focus my efforts in a side-hustle for a while now, but I keep going around in circles not really making much progress. To really figure this out, I decided to just ask myself “Why?” repeatedly until I get to an answer that is really meaningful to me. I’m going to attempt to turn off my own personal editor as I freewrite here, but I also want to take some time and explain my answers in some detail as well.

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By Tim Brady | Filed Under: Mindset

The Death of Perfect

Are You Ready Yet?

I am spending time with my family over the July 4th weekend. Today, we went to Northpoint Community Church where my brother and his family regularly attend. As we were driving home I started to really draw a lot of parallels with the work we do as digital marketers and the message this morning.

I’m a firm believer that to be successful in this space, you’ve got to create value for others. If you’ve been trying to get in the space for long, you already know this. So why are so many of us still ‘playing business’ on the sidelines, while others are out there crushing in ways we only dream of.

I never feel ready.

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By Tim Brady | Filed Under: Mindset

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